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Part I Communication is one of the avenues for healing to take place. When primary identities (bridge, denial, and pain) and alters tell their stories, the host and others can validate them and respect them for the job they were given and did because it helped the whole system to live. It is crucial for the primary identities and/or, host and/or, alters and support team to pray for parts that don’t feel safe enough to share their stories. This lets them know you think they are valuable. The more agreement and validation you have between the ones in the system, the easier it is to move to the next step of healing. In order to get synchronization between the parts, the ones listening need to know where they are going and why. This is a lot of hard work. The system needs to know the host will keep them from triggering places and people. The host needs to inform them when they are going to work and for how long then anywhere else that they will be going. Be sure to ask what they want to do. If a part likes to play games, then there needs to be a set time they can play. Help them understand that everything they want to do can’t all be done in one day. Time can be a confusing concept due to losing time or having amnesia between parts. Reassure each part that fun activities and learning activities are important for the whole system because not only is that part doing something beneficial, but the system may also enjoy it. It creates organization and synchronization. Whoever (part of your system) is in your face, they need to be heard. Talk with this part as soon as you can and find out their reasoning for wanting to harm themselves or others. Talk it out, write it out, draw it out, or some other creative way to solve this situation. When there is amnesia between parts communication is vital as each one or groups get to know each other. The host and/or primary identity has a large responsibility. Introduce each new part and/or alter to the rest of the system if they don’t know them yet. Tell the others in the system what this part and/or alter likes (if they know) and let God help them bond with another part in their system. If this part doesn’t wan to be with the group yet - - please find the reasoning and respect them. Keep them informed just like the others. If you don’t have a place where the parts can be together and safe, ask God to show you this. This is another way to get synchronized. This place is just for you and your parts. There are 6 major emotions that can be resolved through healing by Jesus Christ of Nazareth: sadness, anger, fear, disgust, shame, and hopeless/despair. (Restoration in Christ Ministries, 2004) If it is possible in your system, the alter or primary identity that has come forward seeking healing, may allow other parts to watch and/or listen. So that alters could increase their capacity to work through these emotions together. If you cannot do this, either the host or primary identity who experienced the healing could share it with your system. Healing can flow down to alters who had the same situation and /or emotions. This can build confidence and trust in your system - - letting each one know you are leading them to more organization, harmony, and synchronization. This is great to allow God of all Creation to heal you and your system. The more of this you receive the less life seems to be like a roller coaster ride or living crisis-to-crisis. When you have done everything you know to do including prayer, when an alter and/or primary identity is triggered and the situation is becoming more chaotic please call (phone) one of your safe people, so that this part can be heard and this situation either healed or brought down to a more manageable level. It may be possible to write down a time and day this part could work with the counselor, prayer minister, or therapist. This part may want to write down what triggers them and have that to take to the ministry session so nothing will be forgotten. Communication is so vital to healing when a survivor has come from a life of secrets. Communication clears the air and allows the truth of the survivor’s system to come forth. Then safe people in their life may validate and respect them. Then Jesus of Nazareth may heal their hurts…one by one or group by group they learn to synchronize their life together. With a life that started with untold events, trauma, and manipulation in what they saw, experienced, and thought, can now be slowly opened with communication. God of all Creation loves to communicate with His precious creation and you and your system are part of His marvelous creation. By: Jolina - DID/SRA Survivor Please see Part II For examples through the Word [/html] |
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